If you have a baby or young toddler, you know that fussing can happen a lot. It might be during mealtime, when they want a toy, or when they’re just plain tired. But here’s something important to remember: fussing is communication, and it’s one of the earliest ways babies learn to make their needs known.
As a pediatric speech-language pathologist, I’ve often reminded parents that fussing isn’t a bad habit to “fix.” It’s actually a powerful starting point for language development. Babies fuss to say:
“I need something.”
“I’m uncomfortable.”
“I want that again!”
When we see fussing as a message (and do the detective work to figure out what our baby is trying to communicate), we can model ways for babies to communicate those same needs more effectively, even before they have words.
Turning Fussing into Learning Moments
Here’s how you can support communication in the moment when your child fusses:
Acknowledge their message.
Try saying, “You’re telling me you want more,” or “You didn’t like that.” This shows your baby that sounds and actions get attention (one of the first steps toward meaningful communication).
Model a simple word or sign.
If your baby is fussing for more food, gently guide their hands while saying and signing “more.” Even if they can’t say the word yet, signing teaches them that they can ask for what they want instead of fussing.
Use repetition and consistency.
Model the same word or sign every time the situation comes up (“more,” “all done,” “help”). Babies learn best through predictable routines.
Celebrate their effort.
If your baby reaches toward you, makes a sound, or imitates your sign, celebrate it! Smiling, clapping, or responding right away to their communication reinforces that communication works.
Stay calm and connected.
Your calm voice and gentle response teach your baby that communication can be peaceful and effective.
Why This Matters
When parents model language and gestures in response to fussing, babies learn that communication is a two-way street. They begin to understand that their voice has impact and that using sounds, signs, or words is more effective than crying.
Fussing becomes a natural bridge between frustration and first words, and those little moments are what help build confident communicators down the road.
The Takeaway
Next time your baby fusses, pause for a moment. Instead of rushing to stop it, consider whether or not you might use it as a chance to teach. You’re not just soothing; you’re helping your child learn how to get their wants and needs met faster the next time around.
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